Our lives are governed by should’ sand should have’s. I should have done the laundry, I should be ten pounds lighter/heavier, I should work out more, I should write more, yadya. Allow yourself to be where you are- you may not recover as fast from your surgery or flare or heartache, but know you will. You may not have done all of your chores, but hey will be there in the morning. You are where you are, and tomorrow is another day.